Every time you seek out external sources of validation, you are outsourcing your most valuable tool — the ability to decide when you are a person of value, and why.
When you take twenty different versions of the same picture of yourself before putting it out into the world, or when the opinions of others determine the quality of your work, you are outsourcing your value system. You look to others for validation rather than deciding your success.
You need to decide what healthy is, what hard work is. What is your value? Make that decision and then let your actions dictate your worth- not the perceptions of others- or worse, your opinion of the judgment of others. Do the hard work and reap the internal reward.