You don’t have any self-control.
You don’t deserve to be here.
You’re not qualified, and everyone knows it.
This is the ever-so familiar voice of the inner critic. The little voice inside of your head that lets you know how inadequate you are- and we all have one.
In most contexts that inner critic is a source of pain, suffering, and doubt- but it does not have to be this way.
Most of us believe that the inner critic tells us the truth about who we are deep inside. This couldn’t be further from reality.
The reality is that the inner critic reveals who we most do not want to become. The inner critic shines a light on our deepest fears of who we can be when we are at our worst.
This can be a helpful guide instead of a truth-filled fate.
When your inner critic speaks to you, kindly take that criticism by having gratitude and turning the guidance into action.
‘You’re lazy.’ Yes. I fear my sloth and what it will do to my health. I tend to lay on the couch in the evening and remain there for the rest of the night. What if I start going for short walks after dinner instead of going directly to the couch?
‘You don’t have any self-control.’ Yes. If there is a bag of chips or a tub of ice cream in the house, I am going to find it. Maybe I need to stop purchasing these items or start buying them in much smaller quantities. Perhaps after I buy a bag of chips, I can immediately split it up into 6 or 8 reasonable servings in separate resealable containers and do my best to stick to one bag when the craving comes.
As with most (if not all) things in life, the difference between a negative anchor and uplifting positivity is in the mindset we filter the feedback through. Any thought can be helpful and harmful. The context makes it so.
So who will your inner critic be to you? A helpful guide or a hurtful truth-teller? The answer is up to you.